Attitude of Seduction: Rejection - Not an Enemy, but your Best Friend Email

Attitude of Seduction: Rejection - Not an Enemy, but your Best Friend

"You learn more from winning than losing" - Author Unknown

Why so many people are afraid of rejection, is also the same reason why just a few people are very successful.

What differentiates successful seducers (or people, for that matter) from normal, ordinary, average frustrated people is that, the former aren't afraid to get rejected. They faced a lot more rejections than the usual, average person, and that's why they succeed.

They faced a lot more rejections than the average person, and that's why, they face a lot less rejections in the long run, especially when it matters.

Benefits of Rejection

It's actually better to get rejected than not knowing where you stand at all.

First, if you get rejected, you become more motivated in life. Those who have it easy and who don't get rejected don't develop "the fire" in them that would fuel them and drive them to…

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Attitude of Seduction: 1 Simple Mindshift to become The Man that Makes Things Happen Email

Attitude of Seduction: 1 Simple Mindshift to become The Man that Makes Things Happen

"Some people want it to happen, some people wish it could happen, while others make it happen." - Michael Jordan

"If you're proactive, you don't have to wait for circumstances or other people to create perspective expanding experiences. You can consciously create your own." - Stephen R. Covey

"Look at the word responsibility—'response-ability'—the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling." - from The 7 Habits of Highly Proactive People by Stephen R. Covey

There are 3 categories of people in this world:

a.) Those who watch things happen
b.) Those who wait for things to happen
c.) Those who makes things happen

Now, ask yourself these 2 questions:


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The Best and Most Surefire Way to Increase Self-Belief Email

The Best and Most Surefire Way to Increase Self-Belief

"Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself" - Robert Collier

"Instead of giving myself reasons why I can't, I give myself reasons why I can" - Author Unknown

"Some of the world's greatest feats were accomplished by people not smart enough to know they were impossible." - Author Unknown

The Limit Break

This is 1 of the core concepts of X Arts under "Attitude" of the Triad of Success. It refers to PUSHING BEYOND YOUR LIMIT, and INCREASING SELF-BELIEF in yourself.

There's 1 simple way to make this highly important fundamental principle a core part of our Attitude. It's just a simple adjustment that will certainly go a long way, and it goes like this: 

Whenever you find yourself saying "I can't do it", instead of saying that... you say "I haven't yet figured out how to do it..."

We're not perfect and we don't know…

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Going Karaoke / Videoke on Dates Email

Going Karaoke / Videoke on Dates

"The only thing better than singing is more singing." - Ella Fitzgerald

"As long as we live, there is never enough singing." - Martin Luther

It has been ingrained in the culture of Filipinos that "Karaoke" or "Videoke" have always been one of our favorite pastimes. Singing aloud to your heart's delight had always been the ultimate form of fun and release for some of us. So I've been meaning to write this for some time now because there had never been a written application of using Karaoke/Videoke as a Routine (Correct me if I'm wrong here).

I have thought of Karaoke/Videoke sessions as a good day 2 option and social proof generator because of the following reasons:

  1. People generally love to sing.
  2. It is relatively cheap.
  3. You can find it anywhere.
  4. It is a great comfort-building exercise.
  5. It is a great form of DHV.

Showing your FUN side…

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Why a Lot of PUA's are Weird: Attitude vs. Skill Set Email

Why a Lot of PUA's are Weird: Attitude vs. Skill Set

"Champions aren't made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them: A desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have last-minute stamina, they have to be a little faster, they have to have the skill and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill." - Muhammad Ali

"Have you ever noticed that there's something strange about a lot of sargers? It's as if you look at a guy, and you can just TELL that something is missing." - from the article of Style "Social Robots"in the book The Game

Title caught your attention eh?

By the way, not all PUA's are weird (maybe unique hehe), but many are. In any instance, the reason I wanted to write this article is because of this site:


I hate to admit it, but this guy, has some valid points. Although, it is obvious that his hatred to the community is personal. And I can also tell the guy who wrote this have a lot of limiting beliefs. Not all his points are true and to be taken at face value, but he does have some valid points like I said. And you have to read between the lines as well, correlating this with your experience in the community...

Having been a follower of the community for a very long time now (4 years), I've personally witnessed a lot of people dwelling into the community and the effect the community had on them.

I've witnessed a few transform and be a lot better than they were. And I've witness A LOT MORE become worse and weirder than they were when they started before.

Actually, it's not the method themselves that don't work. It's the way they are taught. You see, Skill Sets are more marketable than Attitude (we all know that the seduction community in the US is highly commercialized already, if you don't... READ THIS OTHER POST by Apostle - a member of the seduction community in the US), aside from the fact that a lot of these people in the community don't know a thing about teaching Attitude.

These gurus who are successful and consistent in seduction themselves, assume that their apprentice have the same attitude as them, but usually they don't (I'm not saying not all gurus are like this, just some). By the way, just because the guru is good in the field, doesn't mean he can teach shit. If that's the way it is, then all Naturals should be good gurus. hehehehe

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How Much are You really Worth? Email

How Much are You really Worth?

"Your best shot at happiness - self-worth and personal satisfaction - the things that constitute real success - is not in earning as much as you can, but in performing as well as you can something that you consider worthwhile." - William Raspberry

Here's another interesting article written by my good friend and fellow member of the Wolfpack, Alphaman. I think it's a great read for all people, whether a member of the community or not.

Thank you for this contribution Alphaman. Here's the article below:

Someone once told me that "I gotta to prove something to myself before I will meet other PUA's" or "I can't approach her because the has much more higher value than me."

I say its bullshit, the fact that your trying to improve yourself gives you the authority to be "WORTHY"

You're selling your self short....

I may not know him personally but I know that if he can only see his potential to be really great with women, he'll change his view of himself.

That leads me to thinking about the topic of self-worthiness...

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There's No OJT (On-The-Job) Training in Seduction: The Concept of Being Seduction-Ready and Sexually Fit Email

There's No OJT (On-The-Job) Training in Seduction: The Concept of Being Seduction-Ready and Sexually Fit

"Preparation + Opportunity = Success" - Famous Wise Quote

"Change comes from within, it should always start from the inside." - Another Famous Wise Quote

*** Disclaimer ***

I'm not campaigning for Manny Villar, it just so happens that I made this realization during his campaign, which speech holds heavy substance.

*** End of Disclaimer ***

Last November, 2010, (I forgot the exact date), me and my family attended a high-profile dinner in Urdaneta Village, Makati. This dinner was especially unique because Manny Villar was there, along with Mike Defensor, one of his friends in the political climate. Manny Villar gave a speech and announced his intention to run as president of the Philippines during that dinner. He also answered some questions regarding highest position of the country.

Personally, I have neutral opinion about Manny Villar as a presidentiable, but this is not what this article is all about. This article is about what he said during his speech. He said: 

"If you're gonna be a president, there's no on-the-job training! As soon as you're campaigning to become president, you should be ready for that office as early as the first day of your term! There's no on-the-job training for the presidency in the sense that, you'll learn the presidency for the first 2 years, and then become a real president the next 4 years! By then, we would have lost a lot of precious time and would have done a lot of projects already. When you aspire for the presidency, make sure you already prepared for it, and qualified enough."

- Manny Villar

Golden words from a man who surely knows what he's talking about. I mean, here's a man who worked his way up the corporate and social ladder, from an average guy, to becoming one of the richest guys in the Philippines through smart and hard work, and sheer determination and will. He became Speaker of the House of Representatives, then Senate President, and now, he has a big fighting chance to be President of the Philippines.

Seduction-ready and sexually fit…

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The Scan - Dropping and Forgetting the 3-Second Rule Email

The Scan - Dropping and Forgetting the 3-Second Rule

"Before going into battle, you must know the terrain." - Sun Tzu from The Art of War

"The key to good and solid game, is good observation." - Ryu X

Anybody who’s been in the seduction community for a long time and gotten good therein, or anybody who’s got basic common sense for that matter, should know that the 3-second rule as enunciated in the Mystery Method is as good as obsolete. It's been obsolete since 2006. It’s very easy to know why. But first, what is the 3-second rule anyway?

The 3-second rule

The 3-second rule is the rule in the community that states that if someone spots a pretty lady or an HB (hot babe) set, then he has a time limit of 3 seconds to either approach the lady or the set, or not make the approach at all. The reasons for that are:

1.)    If it takes you a long time to approach, your approach anxiety will be much higher because you will think and analyze more, and then you will probably end up not approaching the set and thus, resulting in some lost opportunity;

2.)    If it takes you a long time to approach, the lady or the set will notice that in due time, and then feel creepy about you, thus, even before you did the approach, you will have been rejected already.

Cons of the 3-second rule

The 3-second rule was given as a solution to counter the problems above. The 3-second rule was thus formulated to counter approach anxiety and make the cold approach a little less weird. For that, I commend the making of the 3-second rule.…

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Why Pick Up Arts is the Great Equalizer Email

Why Pick Up Arts is the Great Equalizer

“If you keep on doing what you have always been doing, you will keep getting what you have always been getting." - Famous NLP Principle

I have come to this conclusion many years ago; the moment we stumbled upon the art of seduction and pick up arts... that this art is the great equalizer.

How come? In what sense is it an equalizer? What is an equalizer anyway?

By equalizer, I mean that, in this art, all people coming into this community are presumed equal. There's no discrimination, hierarchy of status because of good looks, wealth, health, rank, position, connections, etc. It doesn't matter whether you're from the province, or from the mountains, from the tribes, from the city, from the farm, or whether you're poor, rich, ugly, handsome, cute, acute, an employee, a professional, a self-employed, tall, short, big, fat, thin, fit, etc.

Usually, when you come to the community, respect is not immediately given to you, you have to earn it. In the community, the basis of status is the determination, motivation, and the will to change and rise up above and beyond your potential.

It is the great equalizer because through this art, people learn to break their social status. They learn not to be confined to what society thinks they should have. They're not confined to what society gives them, or conditions upon them. Everybody here has a chance to be whoever they want to be in following this art. In this art, undoubtedly, PEOPLE CHANGE. We CHANGE.

And that is why society looks upon X Arts and Pick Up Arts with disfavor. That's also because...…

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Good-looking vs. Looking Good: Do Looks Matter? The Concept of Sexual Fitness Email

Good-looking vs. Looking Good: Do Looks Matter? The Concept of Sexual Fitness

"Take care of your looks. Go to the gym, work out. If you're balding, shave your head. Balding is different from bald. Bald is cool, balding is not" - Mystery from The Game

"Y'know what? This is what I go by: It doesn't matter how good-looking a guy is, it just depends on his personality. If a guy can make you laugh and make fun of you, then that's what would win me over. So, yeah." - Rachel Bilson

"An ugly man stumbled upon a lamp. He rubbed the lamp with his arms and then, a genie appeared."
Genie: I am the genie of this lamp. Being the holder of this lamp, I will grant you one wish. Tell me what your wish is, and I will gladly grant your wish.
Ugly Man: I wish you would make me very, very handsome, sexy and super attractive physically!!!!
Genie: Okay, rub the lamp again.
Ugly Man: After I do this, will I become very, very handsome, sexy and super attractive physically?
Genie: No, rub the lamp again so I can go back inside!!!!

Ah... the age old question that has been bothering each and everyone of us ever since the beginning of time. We have seen guys who are a handsome and good-looking with beautiful and pretty girlfriends. We have also seen some good-looking guys who can't seem to get a girlfriend at all no matter how hard he tries. There are many ugly, physically unattractive guys who have plenty of beautiful girlfriends; while we have also witnessed lots of ugly guys who can't seem to get a girlfriend no matter what he does, and will always blame his looks as the reason on why he can't get the girl he wants.

Ordinary guys usually have this pre-conception that looks are the only thing that matters when it comes to seduction. On the other hand, guys who get into the seduction community usually have this perception that looks don't matter at all when it comes to seduction - this usually stems from the sweet talks that pick up gurus tell the pick up guys so that guys who are unfortunate in the physical department will have a false hope that they are on the same playing fields as the guys who are good-looking. Both types of people raise valid points of argument, but we all know, deep in our hearts, that both perceptions are wrong.

One thing is certain, looks certainly play a vital role in our confidence levels, and thus, is closely linked with our perception on this dance called courtship and seduction. To my mind, no other factor had been emphasized in hooking up with the opposite sex, than that which is associated to LOOKS.

So to answer the question - "Does looks matter?" The answer to that question had always been simple: Looks matter, but it's not all that matters. No doubt about it. Well it matters. At least we have to reach a certain level of “sexual fitness” in order for us to have an opportunity to hook up with opposite sex.

The good news about this is, all of us can reach the “minimum level of sexual fitness” required in order for us to hop on to the dating pool. While there are a lot of things about our looks that we can’t change because of our genetic make-up, like the size of our head, symmetry of our face, the length of our arms, the length of our legs, the distance from our right eye to the left eye, the color of our eyes, the color of our lips, the growth of our hairs, etc; there are a lot more things about our looks that we can control, like our weight, our wardrobe. hairstyle, physical fitness, hygiene, cleanliness, nails, etc. These are things that we can fix in order for us to “look good” no matter how “good-looking” or “bad-looking” we are. That’s why, looking good is more important than being “good-looking”. And incidentally, those part of our looks that are within our control, have greater weight against those uncontrollable factors as regards how women view our physical attractiveness.

Not everybody is good-looking, but anybody can look good...…

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