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"Be curious, not judgmental" - Walt Whitman

"Judge not, that ye be not judged" - Matthew 7:1, King James International Version

"Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother's way." - Romans 14:13

If there's one trait that makes anyone uber-unattractive, that one trait in our personality that we should eliminate as if they're cancer cells, that one trait that should never be in our system in the first place, that one trait which, if you eliminate, would enhance your social life exponentially.... what do you think it would be?

  • Not having a sense of humor?
  • Being insensitive?
  • Not being assertive?
  • Being disrespectful?
  • Being "weird"?

The answer is not in the foregoing choices... Sure it can be unattractive, but not too much, and this one trait I'm talking about, is much more unattractive.

It's "being judgmental".

Being judgmental is when you stereotype people, and you put them into your own categories of "types of people" without even knowing who they are. It's different from profiling, from reading people, and especially from "vibing" with people.

It does not matter whether you stereotype people positively or negatively, both will have negative consequences, and both will hamper your connection with her.

You might say, "I don't do that! I don't stereotype people, so how could I stereotype her." Well, how many times have you caught yourself saying "Women in bars and clubs are easy women" or that "Women who have tattoos are sluttier than usual."

If you have caught yourself uttering one of the above statements, or any statement similar to that, then you my friend, are stereotyping people. 

The Effects of Being Judgmental

Being judgmental brings forth many negative effects:

1. It cuts you off from "vibing" with her

When you can't vibe with her, that means, you can't "communicate" that well with her. You can't read her properly and you misinterpret all her actions.

In short, you can't connect with her, and when there's no connection, there's no rapport. When there's no rapport, she's never going to be comfortable with you. When she's not comfortable with you, then you're not gonna get any ass.

2. She's going to feel it, subconsciously

She's going to feel discriminated. No matter how much you try to hide it, she's certainly gonna feel she's being stereotyped, whether consciously or not. The reason is, you can't hide what you're feeling towards her totally. It will be revealed in the conversation, as a slip of the tongue, in the way you act towards her, in the way you talk with her, and in the way you construct the statements you utter to her.

When this happens, it's going to be much harder to, again, connect with her. True seduction after all, is about connection.

The Benefits of Not Being Judgmental, and Not Stereotyping People

Have you ever met a person who never stereotyped other people? Who never judged other people on their morality? Who never categorized certain people into certain groups and categories? Who never gave out a biased opinion against any person?

If you did, then I'm sure you will agree with me when I say, he/she has a very "cool" vibe. You'll like being around that person for sure, because you know that whatever you do, he/she won't put you in any category without good reason, and you know he/she will never judge your morality.

And because of this, it is easy for you to open up to him/her, and you'll find it easy to converse with him/her.

That's what any woman will feel when you're not stereotyping her, or when you're not quick to judge her, or anyone for that matter. Connections are made easily because she feels at ease opening herself up with you. She can tell you anything and she'll feel good about telling you about it because you won't compare her to anyone nor say she's wrong, etc.

Great trait to have right? That's definitely an attractive trait, and if you are able to master this trait, seduction would be as easy as breathing for you. 

But... how do we avoid being judgmental and stereotyping people?

How to Avoid Stereotyping Her

First of all, you have to start within yourself. Stereotyping people will usually come from your beliefs and personal opinions about the people of the world. So, a way to avoid stereotyping her (and people in general) is changing your beliefs about the categories of people, especially those you don't like. Treat any other woman as a blank tablet, always ready to prove herself to you. 

Second, don't judge actions, and people for that matter, on the basis of whether it is morally right or wrong, or good or bad. You yourself had done a lot of wrong my friend, and you're not in a position to do that. It is not your job in this world to judge people on their morality, it is God's duty, and you should be grateful it is not your job.

Last but not the least, athough this might be the easiest to do, is to be aware of yourself when you find yourself being judgmental or stereotyping people. Oddly enough, when you find yourself stereotyping people, that in itself would help you avoid stereotyping her and then you emit a more positive and cool vibe.


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