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"Some people want it to happen, some people wish it could happen, while others make it happen." - Michael Jordan

"If you're proactive, you don't have to wait for circumstances or other people to create perspective expanding experiences. You can consciously create your own." - Stephen R. Covey

"Look at the word responsibility—'response-ability'—the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling." - from The 7 Habits of Highly Proactive People by Stephen R. Covey

There are 3 categories of people in this world:

a.) Those who watch things happen
b.) Those who wait for things to happen
c.) Those who makes things happen

Now, ask yourself these 2 questions:

1.) Out of the 3, who do you want to be?
2.) Out of the 3, who are you now?

Successful people have the attitude of making things happen... they don't just wait for things to happen, they are the ones who makes things happen. One person once said that "Success equals Preparation plus Opportunity, but I think a more accurate formula is "Success equals Preparation plus Opportunity plus TAKING ACTION". Taking action here means, not only grabbing the opportunity, but also CREATING OPPORTUNITIES for themselves.

That's so much truer in seduction as well. As men, we must lead, and by lead, that means taking action. Taking action doesn't just mean being reactive for things that are happening, but it is more of being proactive. That means you must make things happen so that you can seduce successfully.

Skill Set Example

For example, it is well-known that it is better to escalate the interaction with the girl "during high points" or "during emotional spikes". Now the key, they say, is to look for the high points. Most of the time, people know this, but they can't escalate, because they can't spot any high points?

That's because most of the time, it won't come UNLESS YOU CREATE IT. You should lead her to it so that it happens. That's what making things happen mean, concretely stated.

Another example is during the approach stage... WHAT DO YOU WANT? WILL YOU WAIT FOR A GIRL TO APPROACH YOU? It could happen, when you look like Tom Cruise, but if not, you'll be waiting for hours, and you still can't get some. WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU WAITING FOR? CHRISTMAS?!?

Attitude of Seduction: The Firestarter

This is one of the core concepts of X Arts under Attitude of the Triad of Success. It refers to having the attitude of MAKING THINGS HAPPEN. This is the opposite of being the "Spectator", or people who either wait for things to happen, or who just watches things happen. Being a "Spectator" is anti-seductive.

Shifting your Mindset: Being Proactive vs. Being Reactive

There is 1 simple way to shift from being a Spectator, to becoming a Firestarter:

Every morning when you wake up, instead of asking yourself "I wonder what's going to happen to me today?" or "I wonder what life has stored for me?"; you say "Okay put your name here, LET'S MAKE THINGS HAPPEN!"


If you're going to work at this place XXX, then instead of saying "I wonder what's happening at XXX?", you say "Okay, put your name here, LET'S MAKE THINGS HAPPEN AT XXX!"

Simply said, if you life is a movie, you're not just the lead character of the movie, you're also the director, the producer, the choreographer, the stunt coordinator, the cameraman, etc... in short, you're THE MOVIE ITSELF!

Remember, life doesn't happen to you... YOU HAPPENED TO LIFE! Be the Firestarter!!!!


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