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“Just be yourself” – What every guy, girl says when asked for advice about attracting your significant other

"You are most powerful, most effective, when you are completely yourself. But don’t try to be yourself. That’s another role. It’s called “natural, spontaneous me.” As soon as you are trying to be this or that, you are playing a role....Give up defining yourself – to yourself or to others.” - Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now

Hello people, seducers, ladies' men, pick up artists, real men, gentlemen! It's been a long time since we posted something new here. For this day, I would like to post an article written by my fellow member of the Wolfpack and very good friend Blade Rivers. I think this is a very well-written article, with lots of golden information that is especially useful to newbies, as well as veteran members of the seduction community alike.

Blade Rivers is the founder, and was the former President of the famous Dubai Lair. He's been friends with us for more than 4 years now, and he's one of the few people whom I really look up to in the seduction community, and yes, there are few of them (Wolfpack included). If I may compare him to anybody in the Jedi Council, he would probably be Master Yoda.

So without further ado, let's proceed to his article...

Natural and Attractive Mindset by Blade Rivers

Good day gentlemen! I hope all of you are doing great! I am very privileged today to speak in front of you. Some of you may already know me... some of you may have read my story... some of you might have seen a thread at http://forums.mukamo.com about “Torpe Buster”. But for those of you who do not know me, the community calls me Blade. I am the founder of Dubai lair and the first president of that lair as well, back in 2005. I was introduced to the Manila Lair boys through attraction by design owned by Raki who also introduced me to Ryu.

• I’d just like to share few photos with you just to show you where and how I started....

And just like many of you guys, I was shy, geeky, and socially awkward, until I discovered the seduction community...

I’d be sharing some things here that might be contradictory to what you have learned in the seduction community. They may even be controversial. But nevertheless these are my own realizations for the past five years that I’ve been in the seduction community, and these are what I’d be sharing you.

MINDSETS OF A NEWBIE...

1. There’s something wrong with me, so fix me!
2. I wanna learn the secret formula of attraction and seduction!
3. I wanna learn how to get them chicks so I’d look cool!
4. I wanna lay hot chicks so that I can get even with my ex-GF, or ex-wife, or the girl who rejected me!
5. I wanna be Erik “Mystery” Von Markovik!

FACTS....

1. Whatever you think you are is what you are. If you think you’re broken, then you are!
2. There’s no such things as SECRET FORMULA OF ATTRACTION AND SEDUCTION! Attraction and seduction are naturally occuring processes. If attraction and seduction are such a SECRET, then none of us would be here!
3. Validation seeking shows low value... Big Time!
4. Negative issues with women will not be helpful in learning how to be successful with women.
5. No matter what you do to be another person, the self will always show.

MINDSETS WHEN I WAS STARTING AND REALIZATIONS

1. I wanna learn the tips and tricks to lay beautiful women!

TO BE GOOD IN DEALING WITH WOMEN, ONE MUST LEARN HOW TO BE SOCIALLY INTELLIGENT WITH THE GENERAL PUBLIC.

2. I wanna learn the tips and tricks for people to like me.

NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO, YOU CAN NEVER WIN THEM ALL! THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOME HATERS... 

IF LEARNING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WANT FOR MYSELF DOESN’T MATTER, THEN WHAT MATTERS?

This is what matters.... 

No matter what you do, you can never fully understand the mind of all women. You may understand some behavioral patterns, but the deeper intricacies of the women’s minds will always be mystery to men. 

AND NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO, YOU CAN NEVER CONTROL WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAY, THINK OR DO BECAUSE THEY HAVE THEIR OWN MINDS. Even if you hypnotize people, they still are the ones who'd choose if they would accept your suggestions or not.

Attraction and Seduction are NOT ABOUT MANIPULATION! SEDUCTION IS NOT ABOUT FOOLING THE GIRL TO BELIEVE SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT, JUST TO HAVE SEX WITH HER. ATTRACTION IS NOT ABOUT TRICKING A GIRL TO MAKE HER BELIEVE A PERSONA THAT IS NOT REALLY YOU, JUST FOR HER TO LIKE YOU.

Seduction is compelling her to do what she always wanted deep inside.

Attraction is about emotionally connecting with a woman by presenting your true self, suggesting to her sub-conscious mind to choose you.

What matters most is KNOWING YOUR TRUE SELF. 

Ultimately learning Seduction and Attraction is about learning to find your TRUE SELF. A lot of gurus out there may have conjured different complex models, but if we put things in simpler terms, attraction and seduction work like this.... A man presents himself and the woman chooses to mate with the man. The Woman will still be the one to choose if she will mate with the man or not. Otherwise, its not seduction, it would be rape. What the man needs to know is to how he can present his true self to her. 

The question is, how can a man present his true self to the woman if he doesn’t know himself?

WHO ARE YOU?

 You are how you live your life!
 LIFE IS DEFINED AS THE SUM TOTAL OF ALL THE DECISIONS WE’VE MADE.
 The decisions we make are based on our Values and Beliefs.
 Our Values and Beliefs are based on our personal preferences.

THEREFORE.....

1. You are who you want to be.
2. You are who you want to have.
3. You hare what you want to do.
4. You are where you want to go and where you want to stay.
5. You are whatever you want say, think, or do.

HENCE....

Half of all people’s life’s problems would have answers if only they can answer this very simple question... It’s so simple, yet a lot of people find it hard to answer... And the question is...

WHAT DO YOU WANT?

If we are how we live our lives, and our lives are the sum total of all our decisions, and our decisions are reflections of our values and beliefs, and our values and beliefs are based on what we want; then by knowing the answer to this simple question, you’ll truly find who you really are!

A lot of people find troubles in their lives simply due to the fact that they don’t know what they want. They end up pursuing the wrong career, marrying the wrong person, going to the wrong place, having the wrong things, doing things they don't’ really want, etc.

Most of the time, you’ll have an idea that a person doesn’t know himself or herself just by asking a few simple questions about what they want. And most of the time, they are very vague because they don’t have a definite answer of what they really want.

Example:

Blade: Ano gusto mong kainin? (What do you want to eat?)
Student: Kahit na ano. (Anything will do.)
Blade: Eto tsinelas kainin mo! (How about my slippers? Want to eat it?)

Or 

Girl: Saan mo gustong pumunta? (Where do you want to go?)
Guy: Ikaw? Saan kung saan mo gustong pumunta. (You? I'll go where you want to go)
Girl: Ikaw nga tinatanong ko eh! (You're the one I'm asking supposedly where you want to go!) - Turn off

Or

Blade: Ano paborito mong kanta? (What is your favorite song?)
Student: Marami, eh! Sobrang dami... (I don't know... I have many favorite songs...)
Blade: Sa sobrang dami wala kang masabi kahit isa?! (With so many to choose from, why can't you mention at least 1?)

Or

Blade: What do you want?
Student: I just want to be happy.
Blade: Duh???!!!! Ofcourse! Who doesn’t?!

If you do not know the music you want, you don’t know the food you want, you don’t know the color you want, you don’t know what career you want, you don’t know where you want to go; if you don’t know what you want to happen in your life in the next six months, one year, five years or ten years...BASICALLY YOU DO NOT KNOW YOURSELF!

SO HOW WOULD THE WOMAN CHOOSE THE REAL YOU, WHEN YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW YOURSELF?!

Exercise:

Write down 100 little things that you want, like music, food, color, movie, clothes, etc. And write down 100 things you don’t want.

Look at them, review them and stick to them! If you wrote down that you don’t like heavy metal music, then be that guy who do not like heavy metal music. And don’t let your friends force you to buy expensive heavy metal music DVD’s.

Some of the things you want might be small, yet some of the thing you want may be big and may take some time to accomplish. Therefore you need to be definite with want you want, make a clear picture, sound, smell, touch, feel and taste of the things you really want, then set a time frame on how long would it take for you to get them.

For now you may not have any idea on how to get them, and at this point, it doesn’t matter knowing “how”. What matters is knowing what you want to achieve and you enjoy the process in getting them. You need to commit every minute of everyday, to take every possible steps to get there.

If you are shy, geeky, introverted, clumsy, awkward, social misfit, and being a nerd is slowly turning you into a eunuch with un-castrated genitals... If that’s not what you want for yourself, then that’s not who you really are!

Blade: Who you really are is who you really want yourself to be!
Student: But I want to be Superman!
Blade: Go ahead and bend those 3inches steel bars.
Student: I can't do that!
Blade: If you don’t believe in the things you want, then you really don’t want it, therefore that’s not who you are. 

WANT + BELIEVE = YOU

Even if you say you want to be Superman, yet you don’t believe you are Superman, therefore, you are NOT SUPERMAN!

I wanna tell you a story about a man named Muhammad Ali. 

Once upon a time, he was just a skinny little boy from Louisville, Kentucky. Since he’s just small and skinny, some guy stole his bicycle. Since then he vowed to learn how to fight and would not let anybody steal anything from him again.

At age 21, he defeated Sonny Liston to win the world heavyweight championship. After the fight, he exclaimed to the world “I am the greatest!” which at the time was like blasphemy to the boxing world. Nobody believed him, not even his own family.

Since that day, Muhammad Ali attracted more critics, who were ready to disprove of his claim of greatness every time they had the chance. Ali fought and stood against racism and poverty. He fought for equal rights to practice religion, and the most controversial of these was when he fought against participating in the war in Vietnam. He stood for peace and mutual understanding.

His critics reacted unkindly with his decision, stripping him of his heavyweight title even if he hadn’t lost it in the ring. Almost the whole of the United States was against him at this point in time, questioning his patriotism; except for his old friend, then heavyweight champion Joe Frazier who lobbied for Ali to get his boxing license back from the President Nixon.

Muhammad Ali is not perfect just like any man. He took very bad beatings and lost in the hands of Joe Frazier and Kenny Norton. But Ali was not disheartened with these losses. He went back up and avenge his losses, even up to the point of almost dying after his third fight with Joe Frazier in Thrilla in Manila.

After his fight against Joe Frazier, his brain was severely damaged, and he sustained Parkinson’s disease. This predicament caused him to lose badly in the boxing ring, and was battered from post to post by Larry Holmes. Yet, not even once, did he quit. He accepted the losses like a man but no way did he quit. Kenny Norton broken his jaw, Joe Frazier shattered his kidneys to piss blood, Larry Holmes jambled his brain, and yet he never surrendered.

Despite all these, there never was a hint of doubt about his claim as “The greatest of all time”. And even up to this day, now that he could barely walk and talk, and the tremors from his Parkinson’s disease is barely just a shadow of a fine boxer he once was, the whole world recognizes him as “THE GREATEST HEAVYWEIGHT CHAMPION OF ALL TIME”... Because he believed that he is!

NATURE versus NURTURE

In my five years in the seduction community, I’ve seen guys who, after doing everything, reading everything, learning everything, do not progress in their romantic lives. And this became a puzzle for me. I kept wondering what kept them from improving? 

Then it hit me... I saw this American idol audition... and some of these guys have taken singing by heart. Others had studied music for many years, practiced all their lives to get this chance to show what they got to the world. They’ve done everything, tried everything, but most of them still failed. And at that point, I realized why....

Anybody can be the greatest at something with proper training and guidance....But not everybody will be the greatest at some things simply because we are not created the same.

Anybody can say they want this and that, but some guys don’t have it in them to believe it. Maybe it's in their genes, or in their psyche, I don’t know. But one thing is for sure, they just do not have that capacity.

Yet, there are others who, despite all the odds, became great... probably because they already had that potential in them to be great!

Here is Emmanuel Dapidran Pacquiao. A malnourished kid, who come from a very poor family from General Santos City, who find it hard to make ends meet by selling doughnuts on the streets. A boy who came from a tough, hardened neighborhood, where crooks and criminals abound.

He had no ways and means to pursue his dreams in those days, yet he never gave up. Nobody believed that he’d be the greatest fighter at that time, but he never doubted himself. He also never doubted his faith in God.

When he hopped on that boat to Manila when he was 16years old, he didn't know how he'd become a great fighter. But he knew what he wanted, to become a great fighter.

Now, Manny “Pacman” Pacquiao, who have broken world record after world record, and beating legends after legends, is the only man to ever win 8 different world titles in 8 different weight divisions. A feat that could never be replicated again. Manny “Pacman” Pacquiao, despite all the odds, is now considered as "One of The Greatest Fighters of All Time”.

I believe this is so, because Manny Pacquiao always had that potential to become great. And to realize that greatness he needed to be trained by the likes of Rick Staheli and Freddie Roach.

The question is, even if Manny Pacquiao believed he can be great, and had the potential to be great, would he had been great if he was not trained by some of the greatest trainers of our time?

Then again, we’d go back to the age old argument “NATURE VS NURTURE”.

This may be controversial and many Pick-up gurus would not want me to disclose this, but it is the truth...

Although the seduction community, as a marketing strategy tell us that “Anybody and everybody can be a great seducer”.

But I say “No! Some guys will never get it, simply because they don’t have the capacity to believe they can.”

While most of us will graduate through high school, still other guys are just plain stupid that they won’t finish elementary school even if they have all financial and logistical resources. 

Same is true with seduction....Some guys will never get it. 

So, search deep within yourself, do you have what it takes to believe you can be what you want to be?

If you know that, who you want to be is who you really are, and truly believe it, then you’ll understand your true value as a person! Therefore, no woman would ever be “out of your league”! 

If you know your true worth as a person, then why would you ever be afraid to approach and attract any beautiful woman? 

If you truly believe that what you want for yourself is really you, then you would always feel worthy and deserving to have the kind of woman you want!!!

A lady goes to the drugstore to buy arsenic.

The lady then reaches into her purse and pulls out a photo of a man and a women in a compromising position - the man is her husband and the lady is the druggist's wife - and shows it to the druggist.

He looks at the photo and says... "Oh I didn't know you had a prescription!"

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